Love != Attachment

Read something interesting on Anj's blog today.

She made a very good point.

We can never truly understand feelings. For everything, there are always mixed emotions. Her definition of ove and emotional depandency set me thinking of my own ideas of love and how I have been emotionally dependant on Ash.

I don't remember when I have been THIS emotionally dependant on someone, although I've known other people to be emotionally dependant on me. I wonder what this says about myself. Have I become weaker because I've become dependant? Or have I become stronger which is why I am allowing myself to finally be dependant on someone else?

The problem is I don't know how to emotionally detach myself. I want to try, but I just seem to need her so much that it scares me.

Why is it so hard to just tear myself away and be independant again? Is it because I've invested so much of myself into the failed relationship that I don't want to see it fail? Or is it because I truly love her so much that I can't let her go?

I know I love her. Is that enough of a reason?

Maybe I just need to learn to get a grip and stop trying to analyse everything. It sounds so easy, but yet its so hard.

If you can't even let someone go, do you really love that person deep enough? Is it even love? Or is it just an obsessive selfish reason?

I'm confused. Stupid feelings.