So as cliche as this may sound, I woke up this morning thinking – WOW! I cannot believe we’ve been married for 2 years. How time flies and how things have changed.
2 years ago, on this day, I woke up at 7 am to get ready for our wedding at San Francisco City Hall. I remember letting Irene and Zoey sleep in while I got ready. It was a simple ceremony filled with some raw emotions, a little bit of tears and a lot of love. I’m ever grateful to my family of friends for being there.
Now 2 years later, I wake up living in Seattle, a full time stay home mom, working part time on my various projects and with another baby on the way. Somehow it feels as if so much has happened in the past 2 years that its almost like 5 years instead of 2.
Life is unpredictable and if you told me on our wedding day that we would be living in Seattle 2 years later and I would be pregnant with our second child, I would have laughed. Back then, it seemed impossible. Life was so different and I was pretty sure our future was in Singapore for at least another 3 to 5 years. While we had discussed the possibilities of moving overseas, the reality was it did not seem achievable at the time.
What I did not count on was the determination of my wife to make a better life for us. She worked hard over the past 2 years to get where she is now. Knowing that software engineers are better valued overseas, she researched how to ace interviews with the top tech companies. Not content with that, she started taking various online courses to upgrade her technical skills. She applied for positions at different companies and went for a number of interviews just to gain experience on how to handle coding interviews. She eventually starting receiving job offers, but she patiently waited until the right one came along.
Amidst all this, she still found time to take care of Zoey during the numerous nights when I worked late. She was supportive of the path I was carving for myself, even though it meant me having to attend multiple networking events every week. She understood when I took time to write 2 books and often gave me her thoughts on my blog posts before I posted them. She supported me through it all knowing that we both had goals to achieve and being together sometimes means sacrifices on both our parts.
And I think this is what marriage is about. Two people, working together, to build a life that is worth living. Sometimes you need to make hard choices. We had to separate the family for 6 months. Irene decided to focus on her career instead of carrying our second baby because it makes better financial sense for us. While she admits she wasn’t keen on being pregnant anyway, I’m also grateful that she is willing to take on the burden of being the breadwinner for a couple of years while I focus on the family. I’m appreciative that she recognises being a mother is also a job. Zoey is definitely a happier child since we have moved to Seattle and the family is back together. She gets more time with both parents and has grown a lot in the past couple of months. Fully potty trained, able to articulate her feelings and blossoming into a happy, healthy, creative and confident child.
People get married for a variety of reasons. When we first got the piece of paper, it didn’t mean very much as it was a technicality that issn’t even recognised in many parts of the world. Yet this piece of paper has changed our lives in a number of ways. While I do not think it deepened the connection between us, it did enable us to explore the possibilities with the doors it opened. It is the key that allows our family to be together in the US. It will be the key for Irene to have equal rights over our second child. So while our relationship anniversary is generally a bigger deal than our wedding anniversary, we did go out and celebrate our wedding anniversary tonight.
Our 2nd wedding anniversary dinner tonight – awesome Japanese dinner at Sushi Kashiba
Before the day ends, I want to give a shout out to my amazing, loving, determined and hardworking wife. Thank you for everything that you do for me and our family. It’s been a fantastic 2 years of marriage and I look forward to the many more years to come. <3