As some of our friends know, the lovely people in our favourite pro-family hate group We are against Pinkdot in Singapore (WAAPD) have found this blog. I would like to extend a warm welcome to all these new readers. Welcome to our corner of the interwebs where we talk about the love and care we have for our daughter. I appreciate your readership and your help in sharing the link to my blog. Traffic has gone through the roof over the past 2 days and indeed my Google AdSense account is reaping the benefits.
Unfortunately, there are some people in the group who continue to misunderstand our family, so I thought I would take this chance to address some of their comments and also commend them on their very helpful suggestions.
First of all, dear Jeremy Chan, I am happy to let you know that there was no magic or cultism involved. There were no white unicorns flying in on rainbows to deliver the baby. It was all done in the same way as everyone else – in the operating theatre at KK hospital by a senior doctor. All very ordinary.
As for the books that we buy for Zoey, she happens to have a library of over 500 books. We believe in diversity and so expose her to many different kinds of books and toys. Here is a sneak peek into her play room about a year ago. Her books and toys have increased a lot since then. And guess what, we let her read about all the different family types. We are not afraid that she will turn straight if she reads about Goldilocks and the 3 Bears, any more than we are afraid of her turning gay if she reads about Mama, Mommy & Me. We believe in learning and knowledge for all children so they can grow up to be understanding, accepting and loving individuals.
So yes, we are definitely nurturing her to grow up into a responsible and caring child.
Dear Adeline HO, I hope you do not have any friends who are adopted or have adopted children as your sweeping statement would break their hearts and that of many children and parents around the world who would have never had the opportunity to have their own family, if not for having adopted or been adopted. It may be a strange concept for someone like you who I presume was privileged enough to be born into a family where you did not encounter hardships in raising a child to the point of giving up the child, did not have the misfortune of being orphaned or face infertility challanges. I hope you can find kindness in your heart to open your eyes and mind to many others who are not as privileged and instead only found their families by means of adoption. In addition, there are thousands of couples who would never have had babies if not for the help of others who donated sperm or eggs. Are they any less parents because one of them is not biologically related to the child? I don’t think so.
Dear Bjorn Liu, yes, we are married. In fact we had a pretty awesome wedding in San Francisco about 6 months ago. Here’s a photo of our fabulous wedding entourage 🙂
We all had a fantastic time in San Francisco and truly enjoyed getting married in the beautiful City Hall. You should visit it some day and see how beautiful it is.
Dear Eddie Hassan, I love how you are embracing the idea of a threesome. Is that what you would like for your family as well? Are you planning to share yourself with another woman other than your wife? Or are you planning to share your wife with some other guy? Either way, I applaud and support you all the way. However, we are not so adventurous like you and we do not like to share each other, so we wouldn’t do a threesome. But definitely more power to you if you and your wife are into that.
Dear Eddie Teng, thank you for your prayers. Our family would benefit so much from getting a divorce so that Irene can get married to a man. In fact, are you married? Would you be interested in marrying a lesbian? If not, could you recommend someone to us who would be a suitable candidate? This would be so much more helpful than praying for us. Action speaks louder than words right?
Dear Yue Sern Mok, that would be so much easier! Could you please share with me where is this country and where I can find this holy water? I’m really keen to go try it out. Please email this information to me ok?
Dear Boon Leong Chiew, you are absolutely correct! Changing our family name was not something we did frivolously. In fact, we did it to honour our mothers who are both 张. Aren’t you proud of us? We are carrying on the matriarchal names of our families.
Dear Peter Shee, I am happy to let you know that Zoey is a well-adjusted and well-liked child in her school. In fact, her teachers often comment that she is a delightful child whom everyone likes. She has no psychological/emotional problems to speak of and the only problem she has is she is quite messy when she eats and gets food everywhere. I’m also confused on why you think we robbed somebody else’s baby. Unless you mean the doctors and nurses at KK hospital made a mistake and switched her with some other baby at birth. If not, I’m pretty sure she is the baby that I carried for 9 months and came out of me. Do you know something that I don’t? As for going to jail, I’m not sure we’ll enjoy it in there. After all, I hear the food issn’t great and we don’t get Facebook. Add to the fact we haven’t done any crime so I’m pretty sure we don’t belong there. Since you are so convinced that we have committed a crime, why don’t you make a police report? I’m sure the police would be very interested.
Dear Gina Ngiam, you are absolutely right! Singapore authorities need to look into laws to protect all children. I agree that the challenges faced by same sex parents are very cruel and this cruelty is passed on to their children. Children of same sex parents are often not given the same protection as second parent adoption still does not exist in Singapore. I hope you will assist us in letting the Singapore authorities know that all children need equal rights and protection by their parents, whether they are biologically related or not. That will help so many parents including parents who have divorced and remarried, single parents who eventually meet someone else and want to get married, same sex parents and other adoptive parents. So many children will benefit from the change in the law. This is crucial and you must absolutely help us achieve this.
Dear Vernon Chen, thank you for your wonderful suggestion! That’s a fantastic last name. Unfortunately I don’t think the government allows people to make up last names like that. Perhaps you can try changing your last name to Vernon Straight and let us know if that works? If it does, we can consider to change our last names to Lesbian.
Once again, I would like to thank all the helpful readers at WAAPD who have been so fervent in helping us spread the news about our blog. We appreciate your assistance. For those of you whom I was unable to mention on our blog, I’m sorry that time and space did not permit me highlighting your contributions to the 100+ comments. Next time ok?
Oh and one last thing, we happen to be going to Pink Dot on Saturday. I believe Pink Dot has invited PM Lee this year. I know you are all against Pink Dot, but I would like to extend a sincere invitation to come join us at the biggest, most loving and pro-family picnic ever. I promise we won’t bite 😉